As you grow up and begin having interest in dating, never forget to be proud of 'you' and never once sell yourself short. Remember the old saying that birds of a feather flock together.
If you don't enjoy the company of friends that smoke, hang out in loud-music-bars, frequently use bad language, and feel it's fashionable to have an odor of yesterday's sweat; then avoid this environment.
No one can successfully argue with human nature. What children learn from their families at home will greatly influence their desires and actions when they become teens and adults. They will likely associate with groups with similar upbringing, because they feel most comfortable.
Life is a gamble. Learn to play the odds. People normally don't change instilled attitudes. Those who enjoy bad language, smoking, and loud music bars; will likely never feel comfortable in groups with qualities, abilities, and achievements that causes them to feel threatened. People normally don't like to change.
If you have, goals, expectations, and pride in yourself; then think first of your self and plan your moves. Be determined to associate with friends and groups that have similar goals, qualities, abilities, achievements, and desires. Just never argue with human nature and think you can change another person.
You don't owe any person anything ever. If you have confidence and pride in yourself; you never have to lower your goals or standards to find a special friend; girl or boy.
However, it is important from day one to advertise your goals and expectations, so that others clearly know what you want and demand. Never lower your goals or expectations for anyone.
People seldom ever change. What you see today is what you will see in six months or twenty years. Philosophers have written this from the beginning of recorded history. Please accept this advice as fact.
There is no shortage of boys or girls that are seeking the same things in life that you want. If you don't find your dream date the first time around, just move on. Dating is the time to experiment and learn. Consider making a commitment to date fifty different people before you ever get serious. Allow dating to be your learning experiences. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Go fishing!
MY LITTLE POEM
"I Love You Most For Being Just You"
It's true that I likely overlooked an orchid while searching for a rose;
Inexperience left me blind to the true beauty of substance as I followed my nose.
Excitement, smoking, drinking, late nights, parties, fast friends and useless fun;
For years seemed to be the only life for me under the sun.
Then one day I rested on a far away beach under the bright sun;
Observing others doing many things as they too had their fun.
For the first time ever, I spent time analyzing others and their joy;
Just enjoying each other without a single alcoholic drink, fuss, or toy.
The men were gentlemen, not show-offs, dirty, or mean;
The women were special; with pride, self-confidence, poise, and very clean.
These ladies knew well what they possessed, not needing to prove they were the best;
They had learned human nature well; if others can't tell let them guess.
One of these ladies stood out like a queen among the many enjoying the sand;
To me she was certainly the most lovely in all of the land.
All day I constantly watched as she sunned or sipped a drink or walked with a friend;
She seemed always welcome with everyone she joined and she had the cutest grin.
Before the evening meal I assured that the waiter would seat me at her table;
Then my mission was to be sure she knew my name without wearing a label.
I quickly learned from the conversation that most had only today first met;
And it seemed certain that among these strangers none had yet a special pet.
The music was soft, the dance floor was near and dancing was certainly in the air;
I pushed aside my shyness and forced myself to act fast as if on a dare
"I'd be greatly honored if you would share a dance with me," I politely said.
With the absolutely cutest smile I ever saw, she replied, "You may find my dancing bad."
I pulled her chair back and we found ourselves chatting before reaching the dance floor.
With the ease as if we known each other for years, I sensed I would her forever adore.
As we began to dance she remarked that she was glad the music was slow;
And as we danced I felt so proud, as she continued to look into my eyes with a glow.
Time passed so quickly and I securely felt that she too was having an evening of fun;
Just as I had noticed her enjoyment with friends as she played in the sun.
I felt certain that she too was sincerely enjoying her vacation trip;
And I certainly hoped that she too wanted to extend our relationship.
We both were surprised and pleased that we lived and worked in the same town;
Within three days we agreed that it was God's gift that this friendship we'd found.
My new friend was childlike honest as she often explained that though she liked me;
She will, however, never change and must always be independently free.
And that she enjoys strong discussions, but will not tolerate even a verbal fight;
Because life is too short to waste hours in the day and especially at night.
Time passed so quickly and I securely felt that she too was having an evening of fun;
Just as I had noticed her enjoyment with friends as she played in the sun.
I felt certain that she too was sincerely enjoying her vacation trip;
And I certainly hoped that she too wanted to extend our relationship.
We both were surprised and pleased that we lived and worked in the same town;
Within three days we agreed that it was God's gift that this friendship we'd found.
My new friend was childlike honest as she often explained that though she liked me;
She will, however, never change and must always be independently free.
And that she enjoys strong discussions, but will not tolerate even a verbal fight;
Because life is too short to waste hours in the day and especially at night.
It is unbelievable how strangers can feel that they've been family since age seven;
And grow closer each day and within months feel their love was made in heaven.
To luckily find a lover that is a true partner is to a wise person evidence;
That each man owes his Creator the very most sincere reverence.
Love without friendship' is like a house built of sand;
It can be eliminated so quickly with just a slap of a hand
But if partners hold hands over the years as they work on their plans;
They will see love grow daily as strong as a rock and not crumble as the sands.
So my friends, if your darling always proves that her love is as strong as the old oak tree;
Then you'll know that you're lucky like me.
My Darling I must say again, "My heart and love for you is true";
I Love You Most For Your Being just You!
It is unbelievable how strangers can feel that they've been family since age seven;
And grow closer each day and within months feel their love was made in heaven.
To luckily find a lover that is a true partner is to a wise person evidence;
That each man owes his Creator the very most sincere reverence.
Love without friendship' is like a house built of sand;
It can be eliminated so quickly with just a slap of a hand
But if partners hold hands over the years as they work on their plans;
They will see love grow daily as strong as a rock and not crumble as the sands.
So my friends, if your darling always proves that her love is as strong as the old oak tree;
Then you'll know that you're lucky like me.
My Darling I must say again, "My heart and love for you is true";
I Love You Most For Being just You!
To luckily find a lover that is a true partner is to a wise person evidence;
That each man owes his Creator the very most sincere reverence.
Love without friendship' is like a house built of sand;
It can be eliminated so quickly with just a slap of a hand
But if partners hold hands over the years as they work on their plans;
They will see love grow daily as strong as a rock and not crumble as the sands.
So my friends, if your darling always proves that her love is as strong as the old oak tree;
Then you'll know that you're lucky like me.
"My Darling I must say again, My heart and love for you is true;
I Love You Most For Being Just You!"
I feel Christians have a responsibility to help all humans on earth. I enjoy addressing controversial areas that aid in this goal. I'm a male over fifty, retired Army, married, living in Stuttgart, German with my family. My son is an American and a commercial pilot with German airline. My completed manuscripts are in need of an agent and publishing. These manuscripts are: "Effective Sex Ed, The New Millennium's Answer to Earth's Cry for Help"; "The Lady is a Killer" (about a female serial killer); "Vietnam Memories Fond" (the lighter side of the war); "The Logical Alternative to Sexual Intercourse"; "Survival...Life 101" (advice for teens); "A Psychopath Smiles, The Devil Grins, Another Girl Vanishes" (the Mafia's international sex slave trade); "Quietly Making a Difference" (review of a 28 year military career); and "Adventures of Ron Huckleberry" (a youth's daily adventures). I'm a member of Faith Writers, my blog is: "Tips for a Happy, Healthy Life" (Teen Sex Ed Tips), http://www.genehudgens.com/
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